Friday, June 28, 2013

Fluffy Thing Fridays - This is Bat Country!

I know some people that are totally terrified of bats.  I mean there's that whole urban legend that bats will somehow fly at your head and get stuck in your hair, but seriously.  If they can catch a fruit fly out of mid air, I'm sure they're not going to mistake your huge noggin for something edible.

And honestly, I like animals that aren't traditionally "cute".

So here we go.....

I'm sorry but anything bundled up in a little blankie is adorable.


So itty bitty with those huge ears and little leathery wings.


These little dudes are Ghost Bats.  Are they not adorably grumpy looking?



Apparently orphaned baby bats need to be brushed to teach them to groom themselves.  

I don't care why it happens.  It's cute.


This video is actually what got me thinking bats were adorable.  This little dude was orphaned and hand raised.  His name is Lil' Drac.  The cutest thing is that after he is fed, he likes to ROCK HIMSELF TO SLEEP. Let me repeat, the bat rocks himself to sleep.  By swaying back and forth till he gets momentum.  That and him drinking milk by sucking on an itty bitty piece of sponge. 

Watch.  Seriously.  Watch.


Ok, actually THIS is what got me hooked on bats.


Come on people.  Sing with me!!

Cheers,

Ash



Friday, June 21, 2013

Fluffy Thing Fridays - Animals and their Teddy Bears

Last week I did a series on Inter-species cuddling.  And squee's were had.  But in the process of sourcing those photos I came across a bunch of pics of animals with a stuffed toy of some kind.  And squee's were had once more.

Katie look, it's a Pit bull with a stuffed Penguin!








I totally want a nap right now.

Cheers,

Ash

One day I'm sure I will manage to do this to my cat.

Has anyone seen the pictures of the cats and dogs people have put into baby jumpers?  



Friday, June 14, 2013

Fluffy Thing Fridays - Fur Babies Cuddling Human Babies

Last week I took a look at some Inter-species Cuddling.  Squee's were experienced by all.

While I was searching for those photos I came across a lot of photos of pets cuddling with little humans.

And it was awesome.

Seriously.  I have no words.










Seriously.  I have no words.  I'm currently a big pile of goo.

I saw this video a while back and thought it was the cutest thing EVER.  

Btw....this cat totally looks like my Jasper.


Is that not adorable?

Cheers,

Ash

This is so true.  In my case, Jasper prefers to sleep on my head.



















Could be worse.  Could be this.


Tuesday, June 11, 2013

If Men Were Like....Cats

We all know what would happen If Men Were Like Dogs.

But what if men were like cats?

Honestly?  

The species would have died out because they would spend 18 hours a day grooming themselves and the second you touch them, they'd have to start all over.

That and they would spend all their time doing this....



'nuff said.

Cheers,

Ash



Friday, June 7, 2013

Fluffy Thing Fridays - Inter-species Cuddles

Originally this was going to be called "Inter-species Love" but I was afraid of getting too many hits from people thinking it's some bizarre form of porn. 

I've seen enough Hentai to know where this is going.  If you don't know what Hentai is, don't google it.  It's creepy.

OK back to cute things. 

Inter-species cuddles.  Is there anything cuter?  You gotta love when two things who should be enemies step outside their comfort zone and cuddle the one they hate.  Or want to eat.

As I started searching for pictures I actually found SO MUCH on the topic I had a hard time picking my favorites.  But here they are.

Cats and Dogs.  



Dogs and Ducklings



Dogs with random bizarre animals.
Proof that Dogs basically like everybody.




I love that this Hen is all "I'm gonna hatch me a puppy" 


Hippo and a Tortoise.  This is Owen (The Hippo) and Mzee (The Tortoise).  
They formed an awesome friendship when Owen was separated from his family.
He snuggled up to the 130 year old Tortoise and the rest is history.


Bird and a Mouse.


The whole gang.



Cheers,

Ash

This made me laugh more than is probably appropriate. 







Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Dating: The Mistakes We All Make

Let's face it.  Dating kinda sucks.

Not only is it difficult to meet new people when we're already busy with friends and careers.

But even when you do meet new people, experience has shown that your chances of finding "The One" are kinda dismal.  I mean check out Ted on "How I Met Your Mother".  It took him like 9 years of disaster dating to find the woman of his dreams!  Not everyone is as lucky as Lily and Marshall to find their partners in College.  In reality, most of our dating lives tend to fall somewhere in the middle. 

And as most of us know, it gets a little harder the older you get.  Heck, I've written about it before.

Dating in Your Late 20s SUCKS - Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

And God knows, I've read dozens and dozens of blogs from other writers on the subject.

But I think that the biggest problem men AND women have with dating is our attitudes and the ideas we have in our heads about dating and the opposite sex:

1. Taking Dating To Extremes

If anything I am guilty of being too casual about the whole dating thing.  I'm not a fan of online dating and in general don't go to great lengths to "meet men" when I'm out.  I know, I know, I can't sit around and wait for the perfect guy to fall in my lap.  I KNOW.   But I'm not willing to go to the other extreme which I basically view as taking dating on as an Olympic Sport.  Men and women that are dating 5, 6 or 7 people at a time or talking to dozens of  potential partners at a time online is just something I can't wrap my head around.  And last time I checked, dating a massive volume of people isn't really working too well for the people that are doing it.   Case in point, a friend of mine is what I call a Serial Dater.  She goes on 3-4 dates a week, typically all first dates and she has been doing this for well over a year.  Do the math.  That's over 150 dates.  A lot of the guys she goes on a "date" with she knows little more about them than their name, age, occupation and general statistics.  She's meeting them online and honestly I've always felt that if she screened differently or actually took time to talk to these men before agreeing to a date she would save herself a lot of time, effort and in the end, frustration.

In my time (God I sound like an old woman), you met someone, you went out on a date.  If it worked, it worked.  If it didn't, you moved on.  I don't know about some people, but for me, I can't focus my attention on getting to know 3 guys at once.  If I tried, I'm pretty sure the odd jerk would make it farther than he should, and the odd nice guy would slip through the cracks.  But this whole world of online dating has opened up the ability to meet large amounts of people very quickly.  In my opinion, quality over quantity.  For me, I'd rather go on 2 really good dates a year than 100 bad ones. 

2. Setting Unrealistic Expectations

I'm not saying date people that you don't find attractive.  But finding the guy or girl who is beautiful, smart, funny, not broke, not neurotic, lives in your neighborhood and has ALL of the same interests of you is the same as trying to find the proverbial needle in a haystack.  And newsflash,  even if you found this person there's a 50/50 chance they're already taken.  Or gay.  Or the same gender as you.  Just sayin'.

Still, I'm not saying compromise on the things that matter.  If smoking, or drinking or a certain hobby or character trait is a sticking point for you, that's OK.  But we all need to consider that our perfect match isn't necessarily what we have in our minds.  What does that mean?  That means we may have to talk to the shy guy, or try to understand the girl reading a book on the train, or get past the fact that somebody likes a different sports team than you.  It means you can't necessarily discount the guy who has a different color hair than you  prefer, or is shorter than you imagined your husband being.

OMG does that girl wear glasses?  Gasp!! I can't date her!!  Seriously people.  Broaden your horizons.

This also means stop dating the same "type" over and over again.  I'm serious.  If you've convinced yourself that you like tough guys with tattoo's and motorcycles, that's fine.  But if that's all you date and it ALWAYS ends badly you need to come to terms with the fact that continuing to date that "type" might be an exercise in futility.  Same goes for all you guys who only date bleach blonde's with big boobs and no hobbies other than shopping. One of my best friends is horrible for this.  He has a good job, is good looking, smart and funny.  But he tends to date what I call "Future Trophy Wives".  And then he bitches that he wants to meet a nice girl who isn't pre-occupied about money and he can have a serious conversation with.  Newsflash....if that's what you want....stop dating Silicone Barbie over there.

3. Know What You Want

This kinda loops back to what I just said above.  Know what you want.  If what you want contradicts what you're actually dating, you're not going to get anywhere.  If you say you want a smart down to earth girl.  Stop dating the future candidates for "The Real Housewives of....".  And ladies, if you want a guy who's going to treat you with respect stop dating assholes!  You're not going to change them so stop thinking you'll be THE ONE he gives up his crap habits for.

Also, know what you REALLY want.  I've dated a few guys that say they want a serious relationship but in the end, they're not done sleeping around.  This goes for girls too.  A lot of single women I know want a relationship but they want it for the wrong reasons.  They want it because they think there's something wrong with being 30 and single, or they want it because all their friends are getting married.  But it all goes back to, you need to be in the right time and place in your life for the right relationship to come along.  If you're not emotionally ready you may pass by the right guy just because he's not the right guy for you at this moment in your life.

4. Bringing All Your Issues To The Table

Nobody, and I mean NOBODY that is single and reaches the age of, let's say 28+, doesn't have either a bad dating experience under their belts or some kind of negative perception in their head about the opposite sex.  We all say that we don't have issues or baggage but that's not really true now is it?

It's all a matter of how big our issues are or how deep our perceptions go.

I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship and I've been cheated on.  Separate relationships.  Does that mean that I think all men will hurt me or cheat on me?  No.  Does that mean I'm a little wary of trusting someone right away?  Yes.  Does that subconsciously impact how I interact with men early on in a relationship?  Probably.  But that's reality.  I've gone on tons of HORRIBLE first dates.  Does that mean I presume every first date is going to go badly?  No.  Because if I did, I'd never date again.  And honestly there was a time period where I really thought it just wasn't worth it.  That it was just easier to be alone.  But attitudes like that aren't getting me anywhere.  On the flip side, men that just PRESUME that all women who are single when they're 28+ MUST have something wrong with them is bullshit and unfair.  Just because you've dated a bunch of women that are clingy and insecure and demanding doesn't mean I'm that way.

5. Playing Games

I'm not saying that we all do this.  But this waiting a week to call a girl you're interested in crap has to stop.  Same goes for girls who won't approach a guy or be the first to call.  STAHP IT!!  All these "rules" are bullshit.  People need to be honest with each other and stop playing these crap games.  If you don't want a serious relationship, just be honest.  If you don't want to go on a second date, don't just NEVER CALL.  Think of it this way.  How are people supposed to learn and evolve if they're never told what is wrong in the first place.  We do it at work to get better at our jobs so why don't we do it more in our personal lives?

Example.  You're on a date with a nice guy but he's coming on WAY TOO STRONG.  If you otherwise like him TELL HIM.  Same goes for you guys, if you like a girl but she does something specific that you don't like, be polite but TELL HER.  Some people have annoying habits but they're totally unaware of them.  Also, if you go on a date and you don't want a repeat, if it's for a reason, tell the person.  It's all a learning experience.  If we never learn exactly why people are or are not attracted to us, how will we ever learn or adapt?  If you keep making the same silly mistake on first dates but nobody tells you, it's possible you'll never figure it out on your own.  Being honest with a stranger isn't always easy but as long as you're polite and not intentionally cruel about it I'm sure they'd appreciate the info.  Even if they don't appreciate it right away.  Seriously.  Hasn't everyone been on at least one date in their lives where the person never called them back and they have NO IDEA WHY?

6. Setting a Timeline

I want to be married by the time I'm 30.  I won't kiss on the first date.  I won't sleep with someone on the first date.  I will wait exactly 3 days to call someone after a first date.  I will wait 1 year to move in with someone.  I will wait 24 hours to return a phone call.

It's bullshit people.  Do what you think feels natural.  Living your life and dating by proscribed time lines is ridiculous.  And it reinforces my "Don't Play Games" mandate.  I'm not saying throw logic out the window and call a girl 10 minutes after a date to book your next date.  I'm also not saying that that's necessarily a wrong thing to do.  But play it by ear.  Do what feels comfortable in that situation and do what you'd appreciate.  If that means that you wouldn't appreciate a guy falling off the radar after sleeping together for the first time, then don't do that to him, and if you are because you're a) freaking out b) not comfortable with what happened or c) not sure if it was the right decision see point #5 and don't play games.....BE HONEST.   Because I'd bet a lot of us have slept with someone and later gone OMG WHAT DID I DO!  Anybody?  Anybody?  Bueller?  Because this behavior isn't exclusive to guys.  Chicks do it too.

You may be reading this and thinking "Who the eff does this chick think she is?  She's single so what the hell does she know?". You're exactly right.  But I'm not claiming to have all the answers.  I just think that there's a lot of bullshit going on and not only am I tired of dealing with it personally, but I'm also tired of seeing people I care about be hurt and disappointed over and over again.

Cheers,

Ash

Just STAHP IT!!